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WHAT IS DIFFERENT between CARE and CONTROL
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Care or Control?
I was in a consultation with a middle age couple.
They started fighting right in front of me.
The upset husband said: 'See doc... I 'Care' so much for her & this is what I get in return.
To which, the fuming wife replied: He doesn't care... he just 'Controls'..!
The care from one person was perceived as control by another!
This made me think a lot...
What is care and what is control?
How to identify them?
Soon I received the answer in my house itself.
I had an argument with my teenage daughter over a trivial disciplinery issue...
Harsh (though indirect) words were exchanged leaving both of us in tears...
After sometime, as our emotions settled down, we said sorry to each other...
My daughter hugged me
and said- Papa, you know why you got upset? You were not upset because I did wrong... but u were upset because I didnt follow your instructions..!
There is a big difference..!
I was stunned with her mature thinking pattern...
I received my answer too...
I was trying to control her under the disguise of care... that caused the conflict.
If I really 'care' for someone, I will not get upset or angry with that person...
I will keep searching different ways to help him or her.
If I am struggling in any relationship... I need to closely observe, if there is any subtle control hidden behind my apparent care...
Because, Care is an expression of love while Control is an expression of ownership, possession...
Control cuts...
Care connects...
Control hurts...
Care heals...
Keep caring for people but, dont control them...
Often people are not wrong... They are just 'different'...
Keep caring...
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