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The creation of an imaginary world is a defense mechanism triggered by your brain when this one is in a situation too emotionally complex to cope on its own. You could compare this to an airtight sealed lid of a hard boiling pot of water. The pressure created by the steam could become a deadly weapon; so in order to avoid a disaster, you open a vent on the lid to let the steam escape. Your brain is that pot and all the emotions, frustrations, unsatisfied feelings and so on, is the steam; now that imaginary world is your vent.
Some people would tell you that you could talk to your surrounding instead of making imaginary friends, but there are so many good reasons why it is so much easier to opt for the imaginary friend. Here some reasons:
Imaginary friends...
... see you exactly as how you wished to be seen;
... always available when you need them;
... help you in your thinking process when making decision;
... can handle anything and as much as you need to share;
... help you compensate for what is essential to you that your surrounding cannot provide you;
... make you feel less lonely;
... and the list goes on.
There is nothing wrong with having an imaginary world as long as it does not stop you from doing what you need to do in your day and as long as you are well aware that they are not real. However, keep in mind that this world is the reaction of some others sort of mental problems which need to be resolve. An imaginary world should be a temporary solution, but you should never feel bad about going through, in and out of these imaginary worlds during your life span. You have to ask yourself a few questions. What is the period of the day you are more at risk? Or what is that you talk about when talking to your imaginary friends? try to figure out the reason why you need to talk to them. Once you get all your answers, the next step is to find another solution than your imaginary world. You might still need that world to keep up some fantasies, why not? There's nothing wrong with that.
For example, if you realize that you often imagine talking to a friend of yours, telling him/her that he/she is not treating you the right way. Stand up, pick up the phone and go see him/her and tell him/her. If they get mad, and dump you, well good riddance! That will be one less real and imaginary friend to deal with.
Other solutions can be found according to each situations. Bottom line, always try to find your solution in the real world, but use your imaginary world to help you understand what is that you need to "fix". Some might have to meet with a psychologist, a social worker or some other professional. And, p.l.e.a.s.e. don't give up if you feel judged by them or if you feel that they are completely off track. None of them has the same approach. There are good and bad apples in every profession.
As your needs get truly fulfilled, your imaginary world will slowly shrink, but will reappear when a new need will come along. That is just the natural way of coping.
Depending on how much you need to compensate for this will determine how important your imaginary world will be. Some try to make it sounds better by calling that... fantasies.
How many of us have, one in their lifetime, pretend to be giving a piece of our mind to either our boss, teacher a parent? If we would have done it for real, we would have got ourselves in deep trouble, right? So to let the steam out, we pretended. We created a small and brief imaginary world.
These type of worlds are becoming more and more popular. It is therapeutic. For example, some therapy group even ask you to live out your frustration by pretending to live it. It reliefs.
So, the more you will feel bad about having an imaginary world, the stronger this one will be and the longer it will last. Do not shout it on roofs, but no one should feel as if they were crazy. Actually, that is a sign of great intelligent. You let the steam out to avoid further damages. Isn't that wise. But keep in mind, too much of something is like not enough, your day should mostly be spent out of that imaginary world, but you can keep the door/window open in case you need to reach to it... BRIEFLY.
So to conclude, 1. it's ok as long as it's controlled and acknowledged; 2. it's not an addiction, it's a coping mechanism developed by the brain when it's overwhelmed; 3. the percentage rate of people experiencing this type of behavior is very high (most of us has on and off similar experience at various ranges, sometime called fantasies or day dreams); 4. people from all social ranks and age ranges can experience this type of imaginary world; and 5. Imagination is a temporary solution, seek for the real one (as much as possible), but don't feel bad about keeping your imaginary world handy
The creation of an imaginary world is a defense mechanism triggered by your brain when this one is in a situation too emotionally complex to cope on its own. You could compare this to an airtight sealed lid of a hard boiling pot of water. The pressure created by the steam could become a deadly weapon; so in order to avoid a disaster, you open a vent on the lid to let the steam escape. Your brain is that pot and all the emotions, frustrations, unsatisfied feelings and so on, is the steam; now that imaginary world is your vent.
Some people would tell you that you could talk to your surrounding instead of making imaginary friends, but there are so many good reasons why it is so much easier to opt for the imaginary friend. Here some reasons:
Imaginary friends...
... see you exactly as how you wished to be seen;
... always available when you need them;
... help you in your thinking process when making decision;
... can handle anything and as much as you need to share;
... help you compensate for what is essential to you that your surrounding cannot provide you;
... make you feel less lonely;
... and the list goes on.
There is nothing wrong with having an imaginary world as long as it does not stop you from doing what you need to do in your day and as long as you are well aware that they are not real. However, keep in mind that this world is the reaction of some others sort of mental problems which need to be resolve. An imaginary world should be a temporary solution, but you should never feel bad about going through, in and out of these imaginary worlds during your life span. You have to ask yourself a few questions. What is the period of the day you are more at risk? Or what is that you talk about when talking to your imaginary friends? try to figure out the reason why you need to talk to them. Once you get all your answers, the next step is to find another solution than your imaginary world. You might still need that world to keep up some fantasies, why not? There's nothing wrong with that.
For example, if you realize that you often imagine talking to a friend of yours, telling him/her that he/she is not treating you the right way. Stand up, pick up the phone and go see him/her and tell him/her. If they get mad, and dump you, well good riddance! That will be one less real and imaginary friend to deal with.
Other solutions can be found according to each situations. Bottom line, always try to find your solution in the real world, but use your imaginary world to help you understand what is that you need to "fix". Some might have to meet with a psychologist, a social worker or some other professional. And, p.l.e.a.s.e. don't give up if you feel judged by them or if you feel that they are completely off track. None of them has the same approach. There are good and bad apples in every profession.
As your needs get truly fulfilled, your imaginary world will slowly shrink, but will reappear when a new need will come along. That is just the natural way of coping.
Depending on how much you need to compensate for this will determine how important your imaginary world will be. Some try to make it sounds better by calling that... fantasies.
How many of us have, one in their lifetime, pretend to be giving a piece of our mind to either our boss, teacher a parent? If we would have done it for real, we would have got ourselves in deep trouble, right? So to let the steam out, we pretended. We created a small and brief imaginary world.
These type of worlds are becoming more and more popular. It is therapeutic. For example, some therapy group even ask you to live out your frustration by pretending to live it. It reliefs.
So, the more you will feel bad about having an imaginary world, the stronger this one will be and the longer it will last. Do not shout it on roofs, but no one should feel as if they were crazy. Actually, that is a sign of great intelligent. You let the steam out to avoid further damages. Isn't that wise. But keep in mind, too much of something is like not enough, your day should mostly be spent out of that imaginary world, but you can keep the door/window open in case you need to reach to it... BRIEFLY.
So to conclude, 1. it's ok as long as it's controlled and acknowledged; 2. it's not an addiction, it's a coping mechanism developed by the brain when it's overwhelmed; 3. the percentage rate of people experiencing this type of behavior is very high (most of us has on and off similar experience at various ranges, sometime called fantasies or day dreams); 4. people from all social ranks and age ranges can experience this type of imaginary world; and 5. Imagination is a temporary solution, seek for the real one (as much as possible), but don't feel bad about keeping your imaginary world handy
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